Surprised...

We are having these amazing tents for our wedding reception. The company is run by a really friendly guy and his wife who discovered them when they used Kata tents for their wedding. We had a lovely time at their open day, and we even ended up talking to them about how they had moved up to the North from London to start the business and how they had just started having children. We discovered that they were totally on our wavelength (if a few years ahead of us!) and we are both really happy to give them our money to support their independent amazing business... which, considering how much these beauties cost, is a very very good thing.

Anyway, this is all by the by, the point I wanted to make that arrises out of these tents, is a different one. Our friends have seen these tents (or to put it a little less generously, you could say that we showed them...) and they let it slip the other day that they were thinking about having them at their wedding... that is 6 months before ours...

I took a deep breath and decided that our wedding will be special to us and our family and friends no matter what and the tents will look beautiful second, third or twentieth time round. Further, my wedding is not about being the coolest or the most orginal, it is about our love and our love of all those that support us, so I am okay with our friends using the Kata's before us.

Wil, however, has had sleeplessness nights over it. These nights culminated in him having it out with the boyfriend of this couple to ensure that they wouldn't be using the tents. He said it was eating him up and he couldn't spend anymore time drinking pints with the boyfriend, wondering when his mate was going to bring up the possibility of using these tents... It turns out that they aren't using the tents, which means that Wil can now relax... but I think it has surprised our friends that Wil was the one worrying about this rather than me, the bride.

Also, I am the one holding our budget back when Wil decides that we need X or Y to have a beautiful impressive wedding, which is another thing that has surprised our friends...

I just think that it is interesting that even when people know you, they can still expect you to fall into the default positions of "my wedding will be the event of the year bridezilla" and "I don't care, you do what you like love, but leave us some money" groom. These things are obviously more complicated and varied than gender-steotypes allow, but isn't it weird how lovely well meaning people can forget that?

Limits

I discovered Wil's golden rule to our relationship today, as he earnestly said to me:

as long as we keep on top of the laudry, Poppy, everything will be ok.

:-)